Relationships – our biggest mirrors, our biggest triggers, and therefore our BIGGEST catalysts for healing. The behaviors that trigger us in others are alerting us to inner wounds that have yet to be transmuted and healed. Sometimes these behaviors can be lost aspects of ourselves that we need to integrate, sometimes they are reminders of painful relationships from the past. There are always going to be specific patterns that continue to show up and trigger us because it is a call for healing.
Know where you’re open and know where you are defined in your bodygraph (and if you don’t know your human design bodygraph, this is a great time to look it up!). Be willing to take a step back when other people trigger you and ask yourself what this brings up for you.
Some questions to ask yourself when you are triggered by someone: Does this trigger a past memory? A person? Something you haven’t looked at in yourself? Something that needs to be let go of? Does this energy even belong to me – or does it belong to someone else?
Once you have the answers to these questions, you can get to the root of what that person is mirroring back to you through their behavior. Awareness is half the battle in healing the wounds of past conditioning. Being aware of what triggers you and why can help you release the pain and choose a different response.
This can take weeks, months, and even years depending on how deep the wound is. Some people process this pain through music, art, writing, movement – the important thing is letting this energy out so it doesn’t stay inside of you.