Healing is a deconstructive process to get back to the core of who you are underneath all the layers of adaptation. When the body is under stress – be it emotional, physical, spiritual, it puts up defense mechanisms in order to adapt – hence, “layers of adaptation.” I see this all the time on my own healing journey and with clients. They ask, “Didn’t I already deal with this? I thought that this part of me was healed, why is this coming up again?” Sometimes it feels like we just come full circle with an issue. We see the same traumatic situation from every angle before it is completely integrated and healed. This is because there is so much healing potential to be harnessed from difficult situations. Without difficulty, we would actually be quite weak and one dimensional.
Are You Addicted to Progress?
When was the last time you REALLY celebrated how far you have come instead of worrying about how much further you have to go? Are you overly critical of your progress in life? Remember that cheesy saying – “progress not perfection” – Sometimes we mistake our unconscious need for perfection for a healthy and natural drive toward progress.
My Strategies for Navigating Dark Times
2019 is not messing around guys! On Saturday all the dominoes fell and it was finally time for me to resign from my sales job. If you know me, I had been debating leaving for quite some time but it never felt like the RIGHT time. I had very little cushion or idea of what was next. But Saturday forced me to go all in and make a plan, and fast! Which inspired me to make this post! By now I have a very specific strategy for navigating dark times and I want to share it because I have a feeling I’m not the only one going through it right now. Warning: this gets woo woo real quick but that’s just who I am *shrug*
Is Instant Gratification Culture Negatively Impacting Your Goals?
I can admit that I have struggled for a long time with successful goal-setting, and I started to reflect this year on why that could be. Slowly over time, I’ve realized that the goals I start with often feel too lofty and unachievable. In other words, I don’t believe deep down that I can accomplish said goal. And in this article, I’ll talk of the importance of scaling back and starting smaller because the loftier the goal, the more time it will take for you to accomplish it. And the more time it takes to accomplish a particular goal, the more room there is for many hurdles along the way. And the more hurdles there are, the more chances you have to give up. This can have a really negative impact on your self-esteem in the long run and will discourage you from setting goals in the future. But I think there’s a reason many of us are locked into operating this way that maybe you haven’t considered…